According to a study by market research firm OnePoll.com, 15% of engaged couples planning to get married have misgivings about their upcoming nuptials. In another study, 3 out of every 10 divorced women admit they already knew their marriage was a mistake by the time they walked down the aisle. Do people really get married when they have such strong doubts about marriage beforehand?
Yes. Every year thousands of people marry knowing with great certainty the marriage will not last. Why do they do it?
Serious Doubts: Why People Marry When They Know It Won’t Last (BookSurge, October 2009), provides a unique insight into why people get married when they know ahead of time it will likely end in divorce
The book includes…
- Survey results from over 1000 people who knew their marriage would end in divorce
- Interviews with 34 people who have already gone through a marriage of serious doubts
- Stories from people who found the courage to avoid a
- Over 100 self-probing questions you can use to objectively examine your marital decision
- Twenty five reasons why people enter a marriage of
- Seven strategies people use unconsciously to ignore their
- The top 8 lessons learned from people who have already gone through it
“The seeds of many divorces are sown long before the wedding. People can make poor marital choices because they do not recognize all the forces acting upon them when they decide to marry. They think they are making an independent and unbiased decision, but that isn’t always the case.”
Summary of research findings
- More than 50% of men and 60% of women thought their partner was the best they could do
- Fifty percent of men and 69% of women thought they could change their partner
- More men than women married because they didn’t want to be single anymore
- One in three women married to escape her family
- Almost half the men married for sexual availability
- More than 3 in 4 men and women would not marry their partner if given a chance to do it over
- More than half those surveyed think emotional compatibility is the most important area of compatibility in a
Even though these people knew their marriage would ultimately end in divorce, a majority of marriages did not ended immediately. Sure there were some that ended right after the honeymoon, but that was not the norm. Ninety percent lasted at least one year and almost 4 in 10 of the marriages lasted at least 5 years.
I felt you would do anything for this person, and you could work anything out, and that love conquered all. Love is always enough—that’s all you need. And that’s crap. It happens every day. Love is not enough.
“Connie”—one of the women interviewed in the book
Everyone's stories are so unique and interesting to read, you keep coming back for more. This book is a thinker, and I admire your honest opinions and careful ways of delving into topics most folks do not realize are there. I have shared what you have written with friends and bought them books to keep on hand.
Don’t miss out on this unique look into minds of people who all ignored their intuition and entered a marriage destined for divorce. Read Serious Doubts now before it’s too late.